One topic I’ve seen of late that really gives me heartburn is the breastfeeding in public controversy. I suppose I fail to see why it’s a controversy at all. When did feeding your child become what some would make into a woman performing a sex act in public? I’ll tell you when, back in the dark ages.
For those who haven’t noticed, it is 2012. Yet, it seems we haven’t evolved beyond 1712. Society is still labeling a woman’s breasts into only objects that denote something sexual. Are my breasts sexual? They can be. But when they have a nursing baby attached to them, sexual has left the building.
Just because some highly immature man can look at a woman breast feeding and think, “look, boobies” does not in any way, shape or form make breastfeeding in public wrong. The bound up old prudes who think a woman’s chest area should always be covered obviously need a lesson in being a woman.
In fact, I think that a nursing mother should barely be noticed at all. Breastfeeding is a natural act that long precedes women wearing revealing clothing or porn. It should be viewed as the most nurturing, beautiful thing a woman can do for her child. Not that every woman should or can breast feed. But if they so choose, it shouldn’t be condemned just because they are in the mall.
I have spoken with many an expectant mother whose only hang-up about breastfeeding her baby was that it would be difficult in public. No woman should ever feel embarrassed to care for her child. That’s not to say that one must fully expose themselves in public to do so. There are ways to keep from popping a nipple out, but some people are so offended that even if the mother and child are fully covered they still have a heart attack.
How many men have I seen publicly scratching or grabbing their crotch? Crotch handling is a disgusting habit, but not one that will land them on a newspaper or magazine. It’s even preventable, but let a woman reveal a breast (a partial breast) to feed her baby and you’d think she performed oral sex in the food court. Why does it seems to be okay for woman to wear a blouse cut so low their naval is popping out showing more boob than you’d ever see whilst a baby nurses, but they just can’t breast feed?
I really think society has it twisted. It’s fine for females to be sexual, they just can’t be motherly. Maybe it’s the fact that women don’t want their men to ogle at another woman’s breasts. Maybe men can’t get beyond “boobies”, but for the love of Gouda, can’t we give mothers a small break? Can’t we let them feed and nurture their offspring without scorn? I think there are plenty of other issues in the world to spend our time fretting over. Perhaps we should start policing men with no fashion sense who wear shorts with long socks and sandals. It would make about as much sense, and be about as worthwhile.
Tammie Niewedde shares her life with 24, 21, and 16 year old sons. She also has a 2 year old grandson whose energy level reminds her exactly how old she is (40, and she owns that proudly!). In her home, you will find a 120 pound fur factory named Dexter and a few cats whom have decided that she is merely their staff. The root of her love for books, writing, and animals comes from being a child whose only siblings were books and her animals. She is a full-time student, mother, coordinator of all that is chaos, and a hopeless list maker. Most of her writing is creative non-fiction that describes her real life adventures. Her acerbic, biting sense of humor may capture your heart, or it may induce rage. Nonetheless what she writes is true to life. You can often find her hanging out with the kiddos, studying, reading, writing, and making lists…of everything! You can find her on Facebook!