Nudist Etiquette
Nudist Etiquette
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Etiquette is defined as a “customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of a particular profession or group.” In the nudist community etiquette is paramount in order to foster a safe and enjoyable atmosphere for both seasoned nudists and those new to the lifestyle. Respecting these rules benefits both the unclothed and clothed alike.

 Have Towel – Will Travel A towel is a nudist’s best friend. They are the polite and sanitary way of saying, “Is this seat taken?” Carry one with you at all times!

 Don’t Say Cheese Towels may be a nudist’s best friend, but cameras are not. Leave your camera in the car or, better yet, at home. Most cell phones come with a camera nowadays, but please respect your fellow nudist and make an attempt to stay off your phone. It makes people wary and uncomfortable. Individual resorts have their own guidelines for photography, and most of them are pretty strict. Check with resort management before taking off on a photo safari around the grounds. Photography at beaches is a little trickier as there aren’t any laws against cameras on the beach. Most nudists, however, apply the same rules to beaches as they do to resorts and will call those who are being disrespectful out.

 Haven’t You Ever Heard It’s Not Polite to Stare? Just as in a clothed setting, staring in a nudist setting is just plain rude. As Betsy Malloy so eloquently stated in her article Nudist Beach Etiquette, “If you want to go to the nudist beach for a thrill, do everyone a favor and buy a magazine instead.”

• No One Needs to Know Victoria’s Secrets There will be times at resorts where clothes are acceptable such as at some of their onsite restaurants, during events, i.e. dances and themed parties, and when the weather gets a little too chilly for just wearing your skin; however, lingerie is not considered appropriate attire under any of these circumstances nor is walking around in your underwear.

 Get A Room Sexual activity has no place in a public setting let alone a nudist beach or resort. Holding hands, a hug or even some innocent kissing is fine; but if you feel the need to put on a public display of affection – with someone else or by yourself – I suggest you get a room. Sexual activity in a public setting is not only offensive, it’s illegal.


• The Erection Question Anyone deliberately laying down or walking around with an obvious erection is trying to draw attention to themselves. Should this happen at a resort I guarantee this person will be asked to leave immediately and banned from ever coming back. If you’re at a sanctioned nude beach find a lifeguard or law enforcement officer and let them know. This person obviously showed up for the wrong reasons. On the flipside, you know the saying “shit happens”? Well, the same sometimes applies with erections; they just happen. I have spoken to many male nudists who all say the same thing; when faced with a spontaneous erection simply “turn over on your stomach.” Chill out for a bit and wait until it subsides. Don’t punish yourselves for something that sometimes you may not have any control over. Generally speaking, the more you are in a nudist setting the less it will happen if at all.


 A Hole in One When I first forayed into nudism body piercings weren’t as widely common as they are now. Many resorts had strict rules on what was acceptable. Nowadays things like naval piercings and nipple rings are fairly commonplace. You may even see an occasional penis ring. Generally speaking, body piercings are okay as long as they’re simple and tasteful. No one needs to see bling bling on your dingaling.

 Keep Your Clothes Close You may be at a legal nude beach, but that doesn’t mean the public facilities in the area are nudist-friendly. Keep a towel, coverup or clothes handy to put on in case nature calls.

This may seem like a long list of rules, but when you think of it the same goes for respecting people and their personal boundaries in the clothed world. The queen of etiquette, Emily Post, put it best when she said, “Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”

Pam Ortiz Miller was born and raised in suburban New York avoiding books and writing of any kind as she preferred musical theatre where people sang you everything you needed to know. It wasn’t until she was a senior at the University of Maryland that she discovered a love of writing. Her main writing focus is poetry, however, she dabbles in short stories, news articles, screenplays and occasional angry letters to customer service reps and estranged relatives. Her latest endeavor is a blog entitled The Real Housewife of Ormond Beach chronicling her adventures in the domestic arts. Like most New Yorkers Pam ended up in Florida where she lives with her husband, three cats and a very special dog. Her hobbies include traveling, photography, cooking, cinema and getting rid of tan lines. On her off days from being a domestic diva she can be found rehabbing sea and land turtles.

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  1. Jaypee
    Posted January 31, 2014 at 2:13 pm | Permalink

    To Rob I would say.
    Who took who to the nudist beach? It seems like she is totally relaxed and you are not.
    Any sort of position you would naturally lie in while clothed, should be equally acceptable naked. Positions that are not acceptable would be posturing, posing, flaunting positions that would be unnatural even when clothed.
    As mentioned in the article – “Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others.” so if your lady generally is mindful of others then she is unlikely to be outright rude in the naturist situation. Perhaps she was winding you up?
    Contrary to your intimation, the vagina does not give any education about the morning repast. It may indicate menstruation, illness, injury, sexual stimulation or even childbirth, but never breakfast!
    The delight of nudism is that of body acceptance and freedom (of a child perhaps). To some extent it is necessary to follow the old saying “When in Rome, do as the Romans do”, but soaking up the rays with the whole of your body is a pleasant experience that you may well do yourself in some situations, perhaps not social ones.

    In a bona fide nudist situation other people do not gawk at people’s genitals, their gaze may cross over your existence as it would clothed, there may even be people who like to scan other beings, but gawking is not acceptable. It is possible you were overly sensitive to every passing eyeball. Bending over to pick something up does by biomechanics, expose more of what is generally concealed in the crotch and bum-crack, but as a nudist, you just get used to it.

    There is not really any particular part of the human body that is the same on everyone. Noses, eyebrows, fingers, ears, torsos, posteriors, vaginas or penises, breasts or testicles. You can never really say, you’ve seen them all, but like ears and noses, you eventually adopt a regard that tells you that you have seen every variety of these and you have no need for inspection. This does not mean there are sights you may yet lock onto because you have never seen them in your life, but in general you become blase.

    If you/her were attracting unwelcome attention, then one party or another may be sending or receiving the wrong message. Sometimes we humans modify our transmission for the receivers and sometimes we ignore them.

    Another saying says “What other people think of me, is none of my business” and this one is useful for people who are paranoid of what others will think.

    I cannot be sure if your lady friend was a partner or a good friend, but if a partner then you have no doubt realised you each have different tolerances on this matter. If a friend, then you have perhaps been upstaged and will avoid enjoying the same situation again with that particular friend.

    However, congratulations to you both for experiencing the freedom of nakedness and sharing in a social setting. I am sure there were delights to the day and you have allowed this concern to over-shadow them. At most I think you can suggest that your feelings (rightly or wrongly) were that her posture was sending a message that was being received in the wrong way by yourself and perhaps others.
    Then leave it at that. No more to say. If you don’t make an argument of it, she may well be more sensitive to your personal feelings, next time, now that you have expressed them.

  2. Rob
    Posted September 24, 2013 at 7:59 am | Permalink

    I recently visited a nudist beach with my lady friend recently but was very disappointed with the way she would position her legs when laying down to sun bake. Is there a way women should conduct themselves when naked, and what I mean is when they bend over to pick up towels, or simply laying down with legs open?
    I am so pissed off with her and embarrassed to even be there with her. She says her legs in the open position is comfortable with the breeze and she like the sunshine down there. I don’t like the attention she draws from passing men gawking at what she may have had for breakfast that morning. What’s your opinion on the female etiquette at the nude beach with the gap between the legs?

  3. Posted April 23, 2012 at 4:27 pm | Permalink

    I will save your list of etiquette for the naturist-curious. Thanks

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